There’s something truly special about this magical time of year, but I find that it can also be a little overwhelming. There’s a lot of pressure to live up to: giving the best presents, having the most fun, being the best party person. This year, allow yourself to consider what kind of holiday you would like (and need), and resist the pressures of conforming to what you are supposed to do. If drinking, eating and making merry are your things, go for it. If it isn’t, great – you can spend quiet time with friends or alone (like my friend Jane, who chooses to spend every Christmas Day in luxurious solitude).

Take the time to look after yourself and spend some time with the people you love – whether that’s family or friends, a huge group or just one other person. It’s also a good time to reflect on all the amazing things we enjoy in our lives with gratitude, something which is far better for our mental health than making endless lists of things we want.

Try… even if your job means you work the holiday period, try finding the time to make the most of the free stuff such as candlelit choir services, lantern parades, and the beauty of exploring the (much quieter) city. Be kind to yourself, and as far as possible, give yourself the gift of doing your holiday your way.